Especially For Women

A woman deeply in love, tends to love with her whole heart, body, mind and soul. Even if she doesn’t quite “love herself enough” that doesn’t preclude her putting the needs of her beloved ahead of her own.
What can happen over time, sometimes so gradually that she doesn’t even notice, is that she begins to swallow her own needs, and loses herself into what she sees as the needs of the relationship.
The three biggest relational pitfalls a woman can fall into:

A woman’s continued silence creates great internal discontent. When a woman quits talking about what matters most, the relationship begins sliding into some pretty critical territory. Silence equals disconnection. Disconnection equals lack of desire for intimacy. Lack of desire equals diminished passion and discontent which creates a tremendous ache in a woman’s soul. If ignored for too long, she gives up on the relationship. Quite often once a woman is done, there is no coming back.

There are times in a woman’s life, whether in partnership or not, when she seems to wake one day and question everything. Life. Love. Career. Relationship. She simply feels like she no longer knows who she is.

A woman can become so plugged into her family and/or her partner, or her work, that she no longer recognizes herself. This can show up as an unidentified anxiety, fear, or sadness that seems to creep up at unexpected moments. This is particularly challenging for a woman, as she often has trouble figuring out exactly what’s wrong. All she knows is that she feels discontent. She seems to have lost her happy!

The good news is that once you are able to name it, you can claim it. In other words, once you notice and identify that you’re not happy with the trajectory of your life, you can take steps to recover and rediscover you!

Sometimes in our society today, we make the assumption that being single means that you are not quite fulfilled. That you haven’t yet found “the one”.

Being single can be a glorious time in a woman’s life. You have more time for friends, projects, and career pursuits. You can travel unencumbered. Play. Experience life without having to take someone else’s needs into consideration. Being single can be a delicious choice a woman makes to engage more deeply with life. This can be a great time of self-discovery.

If you are in a same sex relationship, you are subject to many of the same challenges a heterosexual couple faces; wanting your partner to understand you; feeling disconnected; losing yourself to your relationship; wanting to be loved and understood; jealousy; standing up for yourself within your relationship; decisions involving children; and opening your heart to giving and receiving love.

You may also wrestle with: setting boundaries with other female friends; defining your relationship to the outside world; maintaining friendships with the opposite sex; and creating deep and lasting intimacy and connection in ways that work for you both. I welcome the opportunity of helping you work

Wherever you are on the love trajectory, devoting time to learning about you can be one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, and, where applicable, your partner. If you are in partnership, and that person will join you, this can be a very healing and enlightening journey for you both. With or without your partner, you will definitely learn more about yourself.

If you are experiencing a love crisis, loss or divorce, please refer to our section on Couples in Crisis or Divorce Recovery.

If you are ready to finally let go of the past, embrace the present, and begin creating a future that lights up your world, I welcome the opportunity to serve as your mentor and guide. It takes great courage and commitment to love well. I would love to accompany you on your journey of rediscovering yourself, deepening your love, and creating more fulfilling relational connections.

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